These hunks know the way to your heart— and personal success

After my last post on here, I couldn’t believe how many inspired readers reached out to me. They shared with me their own goals they’re pursuing and how they’ve struggled along the way. So today, I decided to take it a step further and introduce two more tips that will bring you closer to where you want to be.

Goals. Resolutions. Ambitions. Objectives. No matter what you call ’em, they’re universally known to society as those abstract, golden orbs at the end of an abstract, dark tunnel. As individuals, a goal may take on a different appearance: a trophy, an amount on a paycheck, a letter grade, a number on the scale, a cigarette-free pocket and so on. That’s all fine and dandy to envision what it is, but there are two key components to getting there.

  1. A goal must include a strategy.
  2. A goal must be realistic.

To break these down, I’d like to bring in two of my favorite YouTube vloggers: Matthew Hussey and Derrick Jaxn.

DERRICK JAXN: AUTHOR, POET AND SELF-LOVE AMBASSADOR

In a tidbit from the following video, Derrick emphasizes the importance of having a plan when it comes to pursuing a goal. (If you don’t want to watch the whole thingalthough you should because he’s animated as hell and will make you laugh— I transcribed it for you below):

“If you had two NFL teams getting ready to play against each other, now they matched up equal in every category, they had the exact same record in their divisions, their players, all that stuff just matched up equal… they’re getting ready to play each other. Now one team has a strategy, and one team has a coach that says, ‘Guys, we’re gonna just go out there and see what happens.’ 
‘Coach, we gonna run any plays?’
‘Nope, we’re gonna see what happens.’
‘Coach, we gonna condition?’
‘Nope, we’re gonna see what happens.’
‘Got any formations?’
Nope, we’re just gonna see what the ____ happens.’
Would you put your money on that team to win the game? HELL NO! And you know you wouldn’t! Why? Because even if things don’t always work out with a strategy, even if sometimes things work out without any kind of plan, we know the rule of thumb is that whenever you plan to win, you have a much better chance. And when you don’t plan to win, you plan to do what? Fail. It’s the same thing with relationships … Whenever you put in a certain destination into the GPS when you get in your car, there’s a route to get there. There’s certain landmarks you gotta pass, there’s a certain amount of time it takes to get there.”

MATTHEW HUSSEY: SPEAKER, NY TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR & DATING EXPERT

First of all, I know Matthew’s video focuses very narrowly on how to feel instantly more confident in your body. However, I think anyone can take his underlying message of being realistic and apply it to any goal: “If you must compare yourself to somebody, find someone in your category for XYZ (be it career-oriented, skill-oriented, etc.).”

And the other cool thing to remember is that without even knowing it, to someone out there, you are that person. Even if you don’t believe it, I know you are. And by committing to improving yourself, you’re automatically (and constantly) raising the bar for that person out there. It’s a domino effect.

Well, that’s all I have for today! On a related yet unrelated note, I hope you check out more videos from Derrick and Matthew. I cannot speak highly enough of their work because I’ve implemented a lot of their advice and in turn, they’ve completely transformed my perspective on life, dating and self-worth. Since subscribing to their YouTube channels (and reading Matthew’s book), I feel so much more empowered than I did a year ago. If you have a YouTube vlogger you think I should follow, let me know in the comments!

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